Pressure Busting Tip #20
In 2011 after a long string of health problems exacerbated her breast cancer, Ann died in Florida. I had not seen her for over a year. The email from her sister was...incomprehensible to me. Just retired, I had plans to write to Ann and tell her I was ready for anything--let's plan a getaway. And now...I had to find a way to grieve the loss of a friend who I could not even see. It took me a year to find a way through it. I miss her so much, and in a way that is somehow hollow and aching. It feels very unfair.
Ann lived a very full life. She had a loyal and loving family, and she had great friends. She would really do things to excess for the people she loved, yet she made no apologies for it. She had a way of cutting right to the core of things; she could analyze and she could prioritize. I'm making one of her favourite sayings into Pressure Busting Tip #20. If something is important enough to you, you will find a way to make it happen. Maybe that something is having a cup of tea at the end of each December night, you and your spouse, looking at your tree. Maybe it's stopping for a moment, having some time for a prayer with the kids, then watching as they cross the day off of their Christmas calendars. Maybe it's a thirty minute soaky bath with a mug of hot cider. Maybe it's a short walk in the morning to clear your head and get your blood running. Maybe it's calling your mom and telling her what you're doing that day. Is it important? To you? Find a way. There is always a way.