Friday, January 09, 2026

Welcome To 2026 And A Bunch Of Stuff

The Christmas tree is taken down and all holiday decor is stowed away. The only leftovers that remain reside in the freezer:  a handful of cookies I sneaked from the tray of cookies my sister Susan sent over and about a half-pound of glazed, spiral-sliced ham. I gave away most of the Christmas toffee I made (that stuff is dangerous to keep anywhere in the house). The new year is here, and...so am I.

*I generally don't make New Year's Resolutions or pick a Word For The Year or anything like that. I have always said that I am on a Continuous Journey Of Self-Improvement, so every day I try to be mindful of opportunities to move through this life with a little more ease and grace. Over the years, I have adopted many mantras, for lack of a better word, to do just that. For instance:

1. Kindness is my default.

2. If it will only take 2 minutes or less, just do it.

3. Touch something only once and act on it immediately.

4. Let it go.

As I have for the past 50 years, I will continue to work on my Patience, a lifelong struggle. 

*You won't find a 2025 WrapUp Post here, either, per se. I have, however, browsed through some photos on my phone and found a few to share with you, apropros of nothing.

1. This particular roundup of photos is especially for Julie. She mentioned making big salads for dinner and wanting to vary the ingredients. I commented on the post and told her that I often roast an onion and cut it up to put in our dinner salads. She later asked for a sort of tutorial, so Julie, here it is:


I preheat the oven to 375 and line a small pan with foil (or you can add it to the pan of whatever meat or other veg you may be roasting). I peel then slice a sweet/Vidalia-style onion in half horizontally, and cut off the ends so that it lies flat. I season it with Diamond Crystal Kosher salt, freshly ground pepper, and lots of dried thyme. Then I liberally drizzle it with olive oil. Into the oven it goes.

Once it's soft, about 40-50 minutes later, I cut it into wedges. We like it very chunky.


When the onion is all cut up, I toss it all together to mix in the thyme and oil and natural juices, then pour it all into our salad. The roasting makes the onion even sweeter, and the thyme is wonderful. I prefer using dried thyme rather than fresh; the flavour is stronger and it doesn't get lost in the heat.

2. This next photo is of my son Sam, who drove a real Ferrari race car for his birthday last year. It is one of Theo's favourite photos in the entire world because A)it is of Gunga, his favourite person in the entire world, and B) it is a race car. Whenever Theo wants to look at it, we always zoom in to see how big Gunga is smiling--how happy he looks. Theo smiles too and says, "Happy Gunga!" Why am I showing this to you? Oh, trust me; it will become clear very soon.



 This photo is a toy that Jared got in a Happy Meal when he was little, over 35 years ago. It was in a small crate of Hot Wheel and Matchbox cars that we hauled out of the crawlspace for Theo, who has outgrown many of the toys we have at our house. 

Theo refers to this car as Gunga. Um...obviously. Talk about Art Imitating Life, amirite? It wasn't immediately apparent to any of us why he referred to it that way until I remembered the Ferrari photo of Sam. Suddenly, it all made sense. 

*I should have known much sooner. I'd seen this sort of visual association in action before. Here's a photo of my spoon rest (not my actual one; this one is for sale on Ebay, and I'm writing this post from the lakehouse). Anyway, take a look at this spoon rest that is identical to mine, which Theo (now tall enough to see it on the butcher block) suddenly pointed to and said delightedly, "Nana! Happy Man!"


"So what?" you might be saying. "It is a man, and he looks happy. Not exactly genius, Nance." And of course you're right. This next photo, however, is from Theo's favourite book. Please take a look at the main character:

The Happy Man and His Dump Truck, ©1950 by Tibor Gergely

 Now look back at my spoon rest. AND--Did you catch the title of that book? He also calls the dog Z-Boy (one of Zydrunas's many nicknames). I want to remember that I was this amazed and awed and completely enchanted when my own sons undoubtedly displayed these sorts of developmental astonishments. I know that they must have because Jared and Sam are both very intelligent and intuitive. When they were Theo's age, however, I was teaching full time, wife-ing full time, and often exhausted while being a mother full time. I hope that I rose above that enough to be delighted and joyful, and that I showed it.

*Finally, I mentioned that we were at the lakehouse. We came for a few days so that I could have a change of scenery and some true rest and relaxation after a particularly bad flare-up of pain. It has been incredibly helpful. Views like this always are:

Happy New Year to you, my friends. Let's do what we must to make our corners of the world a good place.


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28 comments:

  1. Your mantras are wonderful, the view of the lake is perfection, and the Gunga and Happy Man are so fun. I love your last sentence. Beautiful words, Nance. ❤️

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    1. MG--Thank you. Theo is a constant joy. And I really believe that, despite all the horror in the world and its desperation, Kindness still matters.

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  2. I roast small onions in a glass pan with a sweet and sour dressing of maple syrup and Balsamic vingegar. Highly recommended, but, um, there is no graceful way to put this, everyone present at the meal should eat it. Like garlic, sort of. Or be family or very good friends.
    My clobber is also all put away but my poinsettia, gift from the YD, is still going strong. Very strong. I just gave the wretched plant a big drink and I may be looking at it for a while yet. Usually I kill the poor things, but this one seems to have my number.
    So sorry to hear that you had a flare up. I hope it did not last and does not repeat. I have an appt with my doctor, end of month, for a thing I think is called trigger finger. I can still type, but .... And I have to have my lungs photoed again and see the lung health people again. The joys of ones later life, oh yes.
    We had the January freeze already and are now having the January thaw. This is good as the daughters are due tomorrow to put the chains on the John Deere tractor. If I survive this event, I shall drop by again, soon.
    Patience is a virtue. They tell me. I admire your grasp of same.
    And I love the grandkid stories. Bring them on. I agree that admiring the sagacity of the next generation on is one of life's major joys.

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    1. Mary--Your roasted onion dish sounds heavenly. I will try my onion that way next time.

      We used to buy several gargantuan poinsettias each Christmas and keep them as long as they would last, but I soon got tired of pampering them and seeing them through their Ugly Times and leaf drops. Now, I just go outside and cut holly, pine, rosemary, ivy, and some dried ornamental grasses and stick them artfully in a vase and call it Good.

      Our January thaw is over now, sadly, and we got fresh sn*w last night. I will never, ever be okay with winter although I am learning to stop fighting it so ceaselessly.

      My flares are largely caused by stress. I have to get better at managing it, and I know that. I am going to try to get outdoors more, even for extremely short walks, each day. I know that will help me. Please keep me updated on your appointment results. You know that I care very much, my friend.

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  3. I think it is the job of the grandparent to help point out these developmental astonishments to the parents because we are just so darn busy and sometimes we just don’t see it! My kids grandparents are always pointing things out to us. Recently when Will was playing go fish against his stuffed elephant my MIL said ‘that’s something onlh a high potential child would do’ (like you, she’s a former English teacher). My grandmother loved to tell me that stubbornness is a sign of stubbornness when I would talk about Paul’s stubborn streak (which he comes by naturally…). I am glad that Theo is bringing you so much wonder and joy! What a bright little boy!!

    I love roasted onions so should try this sometime. I also prefer dried thyme. Plus I do not like how fresh thyme can stain your fingers!

    Happy new year, Nance. It has not been a great start to the year here in Minneapolis. :( But I am trying to find hope that things can and will improve.

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    1. Lisa--I'm so sorry for your wonderful city. I hope that it will be the catalyst for great change and greater awareness of the rampant cruelty and autocratic agenda of the federal government. That would at least make it mean something.

      You're so right that grandparents have the luxury of time to observe and enjoy these moments with our grandchildren. And we're so much more relaxed and unburdened with other tasks and mental loads. We can be fully, totally present whenever we're with them. How lucky for everyone concerned!

      If stubbornness is a sign of intelligence, then I am a genius LOL. I can tell you that I have been stubborn since birth, and I always had a plan for my future and nothing got in my way. I did do extremely well in school, but I expected everything in Life to be something I could study for. As you can imagine, that is not always the case (parenting! marriage!). Still, stubbornness has served me pretty well.

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  4. Oooh YES. I am also on a Continuous Journey of Self Improvement! Let's keep walking this path together. Years ago I read Marie Kondo's book and it was the perfect read at the perfect time, you know how that happens? And so I always do the quick thing that is sometimes hard to do - like put away that one pan, or what have you. I always think "how long will it take" and generally it's like 30 seconds or less. Theo! He's so smart!!! I love that.

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    1. Nicole--I'm glad of your company on this path. It's sort of Buddhist, in a way, you know? I like the idea of being a Not Yet Complete Human Being. We should always be improving, learning, growing.

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  5. Happy New Year, Nance!
    I'm going to add an onion to roast next time there's space left in the oven.
    Also, echoing Mary G, I enjoy your Theo stories. They might open my eyes to pause some more and just watch my children doing their things.
    I often find myself getting swept up by others and feeling like I should make some New Year's resolutions, but then I never do. Continuous self-improvement is more my style. Thank you for putting that into words!
    As for goals: Making the house we just moved into more liveable, e.g. by installing heating in the bathroom.

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    1. Fiona--Thank you!

      As I mentioned to Lisa, it's not easy when you're a parent to simply Be Present and enjoy your kids sometimes. You're too bogged down with stuff and carrying the Mental Load of so many things adjacent to them and your lives. It's almost like you have to make a date to do it! Give yourself a break, but yes, do try and see how delightful your kids are.

      You moved! I hope it was to a home you wanted and loved. I remember having to do so much work to make our own home--our very first, and where we are still--liveable. The bathroom was a nightmare. Actually, most of the house was. Hang in there; you'll soon make it cozy and all yours.

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  6. Language is such an adventure and what a treat to have a front row seat to Theo's! In our family although the kids are no longer toddlers, we still use many of their toddler words and sayings because they were so adorable (Nu in response to "what's up?" [Politely] "What up to you?").

    Same, same, same about new year's resolutions and so on. With you and Nicole on this one. And I daresay some of our mindfulness mantras match as well. #2 and #3 work so well together, and get this, I've heard it referred to as OHIO = Only Handle It Once. How about that, my Ohio friend?!

    That lake view is lovely... I hope you're able to leave the world behind for a bit and come back to us refreshed <3

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    1. maya--We returned Saturday late afternoon, and I feel so much better after my getaway. The lake has always been a respite for me. Nothing to do, really, but rest, relax, and watch the water.

      OHIO--how perfect! That's what I'll use from now on. That one has saved me so many times, especially with mail.

      Love Nu's take on "What's up?"! Like you, we use an embarrassing number of toddler words for things, as well as family nicknames. I once had a (childless) friend visit here for a weekend, and she remarked, "Don't you people use the proper names for ANYTHING?" No. No we do not.

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  7. I’m so sorry for the flare, but glad for the solution and I hope it brings you relief and peace. The world is A LOT right now.

    Thank you for the onion tutorial! I see Vidalia onions at the store all of the time, but rarely buy them. This looks delicious, and I’m going to try it.

    I love the connections that Theo makes! Such a fun age, and I’m glad you’re noting them so you can remember. Maya used to have (maybe still has?) a stuffed bunny she got as an infant (she was born near Easter, lots of bunny gifts) named Sita. She loved Sita, but one day we were listening to Bjork singing “State of Emergency”, which she misheard as “Sita the Magic Bunny”, and now that’s her name and how we always hear it too. The other one that has carried through is valinna for vanilla. I know Theo’s are associations not mispronunciations, but I had to throw that one in there. I love that he makes this connections, obviously a bright, happy kid!

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    1. J--You're so welcome. You don't have to use a sweet onion; any onion will do. I like the sweeter onion flavour of Texas Sweets and Vidalias, and they seem to be easier on my stomach.

      I am completely charmed by the idea of Bjork singing a special tribute to Maya's bunny. As you know, I have a special fondness for bunnies in general, and the idea of any of them being magic is especially wonderful.

      The world is A LOT right now, and we all know why. I am trying to limit my engagement with in-depth news in order to protect my health, but the knowledge is there. The outrage is omnipresent; the frustration is deep. I just...but you know. My family gives me so much respite and joy.

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  8. Happy New Year, Nance! Although we don't seem to be off to a great start thanks to certain antics going on; here's hoping it will only improve from here on out. Thank you for sharing your Theo stories and observations so that we can be as enchanted and delighted with him as you are.

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    1. Gigi--No, our country is NOT off to a good start. How much more will they allow/stand for? I am trying to limit my exposure/engagement to protect my health, but it is difficult. What will become of us?

      Thank you for your kind words about Theo. I promise not to do this often (gush about the grandchild) and become a bore. I do know that not everyone finds this sort of thing even remotely interesting.

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  9. Oh, the perspective, intelligence, and joy of children! It's so worth it to figure out where they're coming from when the connections aren't readily apparent. Thank you so much for sharing these instances with Theo with us. Our days are better for it for sure. I'm still smiling thinking about all these and probably will for a while, just like how I still think about his assessment "Nana, too many cows." Haha. I might not have agreed with him on that one but I see where he was coming from. Sounds like he's going to have the right number and right balance of joys in his life.

    As others have said, these are excellent mantras. Never too late to learn them either. I've become great over the years with letting go of physical stuff but not so much with mental stuff. That replay of difficult times seems to occur on its own all too often. Your closing is one I've repeated to myself to keep going. We know we can always do good things and make changes locally. Or we should. Sometimes we forget because everything else is so LOUD.

    I'm so glad you got away to the lake to help with this flare. I can see how helpful it would be. The water is always so calming and in combination with the ever-changing sky, it's "better than tv" (always one of our favorite sayings to convey unplugged entertainment of all kinds. I can only see "my" lake here during the winter and I'm very grateful for it. Especially on those super sunny days when it dazzles. Hoping to get back to our river property when warm weather arrives so the Shenandoah can provide all the comfort and peace that it always does.

    Thank you, Nance. Sending love for 2026 and always,
    Shirley

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    1. Shirley--Thank you for the kind words about Theo. He is my constant joy, as you know. And thank you for backing me up on my horde of cows, which I also think is Just Right. What does that kid know, anyway? He's only 2.

      I like your characterization of the outside world being so LOUD. It really is just that. It blares into our conscious mind and our unconscious mind as well. And it is so chaotic--his aim, always--that we feel overwhelmed and inundated. We each can resolve to Be Kind and hope our actions in that realm help.

      Your river property is so lovely. I know you miss it. Here's hoping that warm weather arrives sooner than expected so that you can spend time there recharging and restoring. It's always astonishing to me how much better I feel when I can get out in Nature.

      Love to you, too XOXO

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  10. I'm so delighted to see a post from you. Happy New Year, Nance!

    Well, I also believe that Sam and Jared are very smart, but I'm thinking Theo must be Mensa Level. HA!
    I agree; when you are a mom and In The Trenches, doing all the things, all the time, you might not notice or write down the amazing things your (our) children do. But now, NOW you can really catch it all. I love how Theo has associated his family from books and even the spoon rest! Genius, I tell ya!

    I love the onion idea to jazz up a salad---you've inspired me to try this.
    I hope the feel good effects of the lake stay with you for a long, long time.

    I don't make resolutions either, but I do enjoy a good mantra and doing what we can to better the world from our little corner is just perfect. XO

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    1. BB Suz--Thank you! It's good to see you here. I know how busy you are, especially these days.

      Theo is bright and funny, too. I had forgotten how much personality development takes place at the age of two. You have so much to look forward to! AND IT GOES SO FAST.

      I am determined to make this lake medicine last. I learned from it. And I'm also determined to go there more often. Honestly, there's nothing to stop us: we're both retired; Piper is a self-sufficient cat used to the routine from summertime; it's not a long drive to get there.

      You already do quite a bit to improve things in your corner of the world and beyond. Keep on doing those things. You're doing them for your whole new generation's future, too.

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  11. Dearest Nance,

    What a fun post! Love the Vidalia onion recipe. I must admit that I had to look up “Vidalia onions.” Even though I love to cook, that will give you an idea of my culinary prowess, lol. Of course, I looked it up on Mr. Google, a.k.a. “Google AI” these days. I was amazed that the authentic ones are apparently “only grown in a specific region of southern Georgia due to the unique sulfur soil, giving them their distinct taste.” Of course, they export to states all over the U.S. Now I have to hunt for those in my local supermarkets. Maybe I’ve actually seen them and just didn’t know they were Vidalia onions.

    Lots of “happy” in this post, too. Looks as if Theo has latched onto this word in a big way. As well as his “Gunga.” (Dumb question: Is “Gunga” due to a toddler’s pronunciation of uncle?) Theo is clearly a shining light in your life these days, and it makes me happy to think that this gives you some respite from the health issues you are bravely coping with. So glad you could have those days at the lakehouse after your flare-up. The view looks beautiful and very calming.

    Happy New Year to you and yours as well. ❤️ Making our corners of the world a good place is absolutely a priority and a much-needed soothing balm for all as we navigate the year ahead which is looking to be a real roller-coast ride.

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    1. P.S. Completely forgot to comment on your mantras: I am on board with every single one. And I must confess that No. 4 has been the hardest for me to achieve. I tend to dwell on things too long and have finally realized that it is just not productive and a waste of time. I think as we age, we naturally tend to streamline our lives into things that really matter and stop obsessing on "the small stuff." (Remembering a book that was popular years ago: Don't Sweat the Small Stuff.)

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    2. Ortizzle--Yes! Don't sweat the small stuff is another way to put it. I don't use that simply because I don't characterize some things I have to Let Go as "small." Sometimes, they're rather large things, but I have had to let them go because they drag me down or harm me in some way (as in, People are not Small Things). I completely agree that, as I've aged, I've felt liberated by streamlining my life and my environment. It's wonderful.

      Gunga IS Theo's attempt at saying Uncle. He likely could say it more clearly now, but both he and Sam are happy with the special name Gunga. They are unabashedly smitten with one another.

      Vidalias aren't the only sweet onion you can use, and you don't really have to use a sweet onion, either. But if you want to, you can also find Texas Sweets, Mauis, or Walla Wallas. I use sweet onion brands because they are gentler on my stomach and don't make me tear up so much when I prep them.

      TX and OH both have big senate races coming up. I want to be able to work on Sherrod Brown's campaign, but we'll have to see. We need a blue tsunami, and we need it badly.

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  12. I'm so happy when a Nance post pops up and this one is another sign that you and I are on the same page. Like you, I do not do resolutions or words of the year. I think my approach is to try to tackle what I need to tackle. Spreading kindness is doable. Let's hope the rest of the world catches on.

    Little Theo, smart as a whip. I love these fun little glimpses into your world with him. The little Happy Meal Toy getting a second life and being associated with Gunga makes me smile. What a riot. I'm confident you noticed all the boys' progress even when you were so busy. I find it easy to forget all those details from so long ago, but that doesn't mean it didn't happen.

    I'm happy to hear that time at the lake has served you well. All the best in 2026.

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    1. Ernie--Thank you. And you can certainly sum up things adeptly and with great compassion. This is a lovely and kind comment.

      The ultimate goal of Kindness is that it catches on, exactly. This chaos and cruelty cannot long sustain itself. It is not Who We Are.

      Let's get this lousy winter over with and get some nice weather. Then you and I need to find a place to meet up and share. 2026 is our year.

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  13. I love Vidalia onions. We have a huge grower near by, and believe it or not they smell wonderful in bulk and by bulk I mean enough to fill a rail car.

    This is the first year in decades when I didn't do a mantra or resolution. But I'm putting civil engagement/politics the main focus for 2026. So I guess that's sort of a resolution.

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    1. Jean--A rail car full of onions! You know, I imagine they'd smell good. I always like how the roasted onions smell, or onion rings at a fair or festival. Yum!

      Your focus on politics sounds resolute to me. AND like a good idea. We need a blue tsunami in 2026. Thanks for all the help you give to get us there.

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  14. Happy New Year, Nance. I hope it is a good one for you. And oh, that spoon rest/kids book -- wow! Thanks for the onion recipe, too. I love onions in anything and with the thyme, that would be super. I still haven't picked a word and don't know if I will. This year it feels a little too depressing! And no resolutions, just remembering to look at what makes me happy, settled, joyful, safe and doing more of that. But I do have some goals -- to become more politically involved, to paint more, to travel as much as I can. My lakehouse closes from late October till mid-May. I miss it -- it's where I escape. We need a lot of escape these days! So onward, to this new year. I hope it brings you only wonderful things.

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