The Christmas tree is taken down and all holiday decor is stowed away. The only leftovers that remain reside in the freezer: a handful of cookies I sneaked from the tray of cookies my sister Susan sent over and about a half-pound of glazed, spiral-sliced ham. I gave away most of the Christmas toffee I made (that stuff is dangerous to keep anywhere in the house). The new year is here, and...so am I.
*I generally don't make New Year's Resolutions or pick a Word For The Year or anything like that. I have always said that I am on a Continuous Journey Of Self-Improvement, so every day I try to be mindful of opportunities to move through this life with a little more ease and grace. Over the years, I have adopted many mantras, for lack of a better word, to do just that. For instance:
1. Kindness is my default.
2. If it will only take 2 minutes or less, just do it.
3. Touch something only once and act on it immediately.
4. Let it go.
As I have for the past 50 years, I will continue to work on my Patience, a lifelong struggle.
*You won't find a 2025 WrapUp Post here, either, per se. I have, however, browsed through some photos on my phone and found a few to share with you, apropros of nothing.
1. This particular roundup of photos is especially for Julie. She mentioned making big salads for dinner and wanting to vary the ingredients. I commented on the post and told her that I often roast an onion and cut it up to put in our dinner salads. She later asked for a sort of tutorial, so Julie, here it is:
Theo refers to this car as Gunga. Um...obviously. Talk about Art Imitating Life, amirite? It wasn't immediately apparent to any of us why he referred to it that way until I remembered the Ferrari photo of Sam. Suddenly, it all made sense.
*I should have known much sooner. I'd seen this sort of visual association in action before. Here's a photo of my spoon rest (not my actual one; this one is for sale on Ebay, and I'm writing this post from the lakehouse). Anyway, take a look at this spoon rest that is identical to mine, which Theo (now tall enough to see it on the butcher block) suddenly pointed to and said delightedly, "Nana! Happy Man!"
"So what?" you might be saying. "It is a man, and he looks happy. Not exactly genius, Nance." And of course you're right. This next photo, however, is from Theo's favourite book. Please take a look at the main character:
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| The Happy Man and His Dump Truck, ©1950 by Tibor Gergely |
Now look back at my spoon rest. AND--Did you catch the title of that book? He also calls the dog Z-Boy (one of Zydrunas's many nicknames). I want to remember that I was this amazed and awed and completely enchanted when my own sons undoubtedly displayed these sorts of developmental astonishments. I know that they must have because Jared and Sam are both very intelligent and intuitive. When they were Theo's age, however, I was teaching full time, wife-ing full time, and often exhausted while being a mother full time. I hope that I rose above that enough to be delighted and joyful, and that I showed it.
*Finally, I mentioned that we were at the lakehouse. We came for a few days so that I could have a change of scenery and some true rest and relaxation after a particularly bad flare-up of pain. It has been incredibly helpful. Views like this always are:
Happy New Year to you, my friends. Let's do what we must to make our corners of the world a good place.


Your mantras are wonderful, the view of the lake is perfection, and the Gunga and Happy Man are so fun. I love your last sentence. Beautiful words, Nance. ❤️
ReplyDeleteI roast small onions in a glass pan with a sweet and sour dressing of maple syrup and Balsamic vingegar. Highly recommended, but, um, there is no graceful way to put this, everyone present at the meal should eat it. Like garlic, sort of. Or be family or very good friends.
ReplyDeleteMy clobber is also all put away but my poinsettia, gift from the YD, is still going strong. Very strong. I just gave the wretched plant a big drink and I may be looking at it for a while yet. Usually I kill the poor things, but this one seems to have my number.
So sorry to hear that you had a flare up. I hope it did not last and does not repeat. I have an appt with my doctor, end of month, for a thing I think is called trigger finger. I can still type, but .... And I have to have my lungs photoed again and see the lung health people again. The joys of ones later life, oh yes.
We had the January freeze already and are now having the January thaw. This is good as the daughters are due tomorrow to put the chains on the John Deere tractor. If I survive this event, I shall drop by again, soon.
Patience is a virtue. They tell me. I admire your grasp of same.
And I love the grandkid stories. Bring them on. I agree that admiring the sagacity of the next generation on is one of life's major joys.
I think it is the job of the grandparent to help point out these developmental astonishments to the parents because we are just so darn busy and sometimes we just don’t see it! My kids grandparents are always pointing things out to us. Recently when Will was playing go fish against his stuffed elephant my MIL said ‘that’s something onlh a high potential child would do’ (like you, she’s a former English teacher). My grandmother loved to tell me that stubbornness is a sign of stubbornness when I would talk about Paul’s stubborn streak (which he comes by naturally…). I am glad that Theo is bringing you so much wonder and joy! What a bright little boy!!
ReplyDeleteI love roasted onions so should try this sometime. I also prefer dried thyme. Plus I do not like how fresh thyme can stain your fingers!
Happy new year, Nance. It has not been a great start to the year here in Minneapolis. :( But I am trying to find hope that things can and will improve.
Oooh YES. I am also on a Continuous Journey of Self Improvement! Let's keep walking this path together. Years ago I read Marie Kondo's book and it was the perfect read at the perfect time, you know how that happens? And so I always do the quick thing that is sometimes hard to do - like put away that one pan, or what have you. I always think "how long will it take" and generally it's like 30 seconds or less. Theo! He's so smart!!! I love that.
ReplyDeleteHappy New Year, Nance!
ReplyDeleteI'm going to add an onion to roast next time there's space left in the oven.
Also, echoing Mary G, I enjoy your Theo stories. They might open my eyes to pause some more and just watch my children doing their things.
I often find myself getting swept up by others and feeling like I should make some New Year's resolutions, but then I never do. Continuous self-improvement is more my style. Thank you for putting that into words!
As for goals: Making the house we just moved into more liveable, e.g. by installing heating in the bathroom.
Language is such an adventure and what a treat to have a front row seat to Theo's! In our family although the kids are no longer toddlers, we still use many of their toddler words and sayings because they were so adorable (Nu in response to "what's up?" [Politely] "What up to you?").
ReplyDeleteSame, same, same about new year's resolutions and so on. With you and Nicole on this one. And I daresay some of our mindfulness mantras match as well. #2 and #3 work so well together, and get this, I've heard it referred to as OHIO = Only Handle It Once. How about that, my Ohio friend?!
That lake view is lovely... I hope you're able to leave the world behind for a bit and come back to us refreshed <3
I’m so sorry for the flare, but glad for the solution and I hope it brings you relief and peace. The world is A LOT right now.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the onion tutorial! I see Vidalia onions at the store all of the time, but rarely buy them. This looks delicious, and I’m going to try it.
I love the connections that Theo makes! Such a fun age, and I’m glad you’re noting them so you can remember. Maya used to have (maybe still has?) a stuffed bunny she got as an infant (she was born near Easter, lots of bunny gifts) named Sita. She loved Sita, but one day we were listening to Bjork singing “State of Emergency”, which she misheard as “Sita the Magic Bunny”, and now that’s her name and how we always hear it too. The other one that has carried through is valinna for vanilla. I know Theo’s are associations not mispronunciations, but I had to throw that one in there. I love that he makes this connections, obviously a bright, happy kid!
Happy New Year, Nance! Although we don't seem to be off to a great start thanks to certain antics going on; here's hoping it will only improve from here on out. Thank you for sharing your Theo stories and observations so that we can be as enchanted and delighted with him as you are.
ReplyDeleteOh, the perspective, intelligence, and joy of children! It's so worth it to figure out where they're coming from when the connections aren't readily apparent. Thank you so much for sharing these instances with Theo with us. Our days are better for it for sure. I'm still smiling thinking about all these and probably will for a while, just like how I still think about his assessment "Nana, too many cows." Haha. I might not have agreed with him on that one but I see where he was coming from. Sounds like he's going to have the right number and right balance of joys in his life.
ReplyDeleteAs others have said, these are excellent mantras. Never too late to learn them either. I've become great over the years with letting go of physical stuff but not so much with mental stuff. That replay of difficult times seems to occur on its own all too often. Your closing is one I've repeated to myself to keep going. We know we can always do good things and make changes locally. Or we should. Sometimes we forget because everything else is so LOUD.
I'm so glad you got away to the lake to help with this flare. I can see how helpful it would be. The water is always so calming and in combination with the ever-changing sky, it's "better than tv" (always one of our favorite sayings to convey unplugged entertainment of all kinds. I can only see "my" lake here during the winter and I'm very grateful for it. Especially on those super sunny days when it dazzles. Hoping to get back to our river property when warm weather arrives so the Shenandoah can provide all the comfort and peace that it always does.
Thank you, Nance. Sending love for 2026 and always,
Shirley
I'm so delighted to see a post from you. Happy New Year, Nance!
ReplyDeleteWell, I also believe that Sam and Jared are very smart, but I'm thinking Theo must be Mensa Level. HA!
I agree; when you are a mom and In The Trenches, doing all the things, all the time, you might not notice or write down the amazing things your (our) children do. But now, NOW you can really catch it all. I love how Theo has associated his family from books and even the spoon rest! Genius, I tell ya!
I love the onion idea to jazz up a salad---you've inspired me to try this.
I hope the feel good effects of the lake stay with you for a long, long time.
I don't make resolutions either, but I do enjoy a good mantra and doing what we can to better the world from our little corner is just perfect. XO
Dearest Nance,
ReplyDeleteWhat a fun post! Love the Vidalia onion recipe. I must admit that I had to look up “Vidalia onions.” Even though I love to cook, that will give you an idea of my culinary prowess, lol. Of course, I looked it up on Mr. Google, a.k.a. “Google AI” these days. I was amazed that the authentic ones are apparently “only grown in a specific region of southern Georgia due to the unique sulfur soil, giving them their distinct taste.” Of course, they export to states all over the U.S. Now I have to hunt for those in my local supermarkets. Maybe I’ve actually seen them and just didn’t know they were Vidalia onions.
Lots of “happy” in this post, too. Looks as if Theo has latched onto this word in a big way. As well as his “Gunga.” (Dumb question: Is “Gunga” due to a toddler’s pronunciation of uncle?) Theo is clearly a shining light in your life these days, and it makes me happy to think that this gives you some respite from the health issues you are bravely coping with. So glad you could have those days at the lakehouse after your flare-up. The view looks beautiful and very calming.
Happy New Year to you and yours as well. ❤️ Making our corners of the world a good place is absolutely a priority and a much-needed soothing balm for all as we navigate the year ahead which is looking to be a real roller-coast ride.
P.S. Completely forgot to comment on your mantras: I am on board with every single one. And I must confess that No. 4 has been the hardest for me to achieve. I tend to dwell on things too long and have finally realized that it is just not productive and a waste of time. I think as we age, we naturally tend to streamline our lives into things that really matter and stop obsessing on "the small stuff." (Remembering a book that was popular years ago: Don't Sweat the Small Stuff.)
DeleteI'm so happy when a Nance post pops up and this one is another sign that you and I are on the same page. Like you, I do not do resolutions or words of the year. I think my approach is to try to tackle what I need to tackle. Spreading kindness is doable. Let's hope the rest of the world catches on.
ReplyDeleteLittle Theo, smart as a whip. I love these fun little glimpses into your world with him. The little Happy Meal Toy getting a second life and being associated with Gunga makes me smile. What a riot. I'm confident you noticed all the boys' progress even when you were so busy. I find it easy to forget all those details from so long ago, but that doesn't mean it didn't happen.
I'm happy to hear that time at the lake has served you well. All the best in 2026.
I love Vidalia onions. We have a huge grower near by, and believe it or not they smell wonderful in bulk and by bulk I mean enough to fill a rail car.
ReplyDeleteThis is the first year in decades when I didn't do a mantra or resolution. But I'm putting civil engagement/politics the main focus for 2026. So I guess that's sort of a resolution.